Last night Jackie brought me “Prince Caspian” to read to her as a bedtime story. MORE +
Just like she learned her colors, and the sounds, she purposefully learned and recognizes the smells with incredible accuracy. The specific scents of all flowers, the herbs and spices, upcoming rain, type of forest, type of food, firewood smoke, candy. She can smell candy!! MORE +
For a good long while, our newly adopted kid brought out the best in us. I often told everyone that I had prepared for worse, I braced myself for impact but we had a smooth landing. MORE +
– Do you think of your sister? I had a dream about her.
– I had a dream about her too! – said J.
– You did? How was she? I asked
– She was so beautiful … [then she comes close to whisper as if it was a secret], so beautiful that I wanted to kiss her on the lips! – Then she giggles.
– I don’t want to take a shower.
– Too bad. You have to.
– I do what I want!
– Actually you don’t.
– When I’m an adult can I do what I want? Do you do what you want?
– In theory adults can do what they want. But there are limitations. Common sense limitations, legal limitations. In this house we care for each other, we respect each other, and we act in love. So we, as adults, can do what we want, but in and out of love. If our actions offend others, or hurt them, we refrain from doing what we want…
– Ok. Let’s take a shower.
We decided and informed Jackie of our decision, to gather the trash we find in nature, and either take it to the trash can or collet it in garbage bags and bring it with us. Watch out: Kids are like an active conscience. On a trip to a beautiful island in France Jackie had just slipped and got stung by an anemone, and through sobs and tears she said, pointing at a wrapper trash between bushes: “you said we will pick up the trash from nature and take it to its proper place.” It may have been a distraction from the pain for her, but I stopped and followed through. I went and picked up the trash. And couldn’t help but smile.
– I want to play with this toy.
– Me too. I just picked it up myself.
– I want it now!
– I’ll give it to you in a few minutes.
Spending 5 days in the mountains with kids, ages 1 to 12. Wild stuff. MORE +
We counted the days carefully and patiently. Jackie knew clearly all the details of our vacation: when, where, how long, with whom… I make a point to never lead her on, to be honest and always keep my word. MORE +